Most of you have been with the program for almost a year. By now (especially during the holiday season) you are probably battling hard to keep your fitness regimen consistent – whether it’s about showing up, staying on your nutritional plan, or simply trying to maintain your workout intensity – you are constantly tempted to skip classes or ease up on your training routines.
Here are a few tips on how to stack the odds on your side:
1. Friends don’t let friends get lazy. Kudos to Arvind for dragging Joe to the class the other day (considering Joe is a much bigger dude). The battle is won when you get in the car and head to the gym. Once you are here, we can figure out a way to maximize your fitness level without much suffering. Be a true friend: don’t let your classmates fall behind – help get ‘em to the class on time.
2. It’s okay to sandbag your WOD (workout of the day) once in a while. On some days you probably just don’t feel like exercising, but you still make it to class. Let me know when you feel that way; perhaps the baby kept you up until 5 a.m., or maybe you’re still jetlagged from a coast-to-coast flight, or whatever. Once you show up and let me know your circumstances, we can scale the workouts to keep your intensity at a manageable level.
3. Apply S.A.A. – Strategic Allocation of Attention: Instead of getting obsessed with the desire to STOP – the “hot emotion” – practice distracting your mind with different things. Turn your training sessions into something manageable by disassociation. Don’t think about the workout as 10 minutes long. Instead, think of the class as “your play time.” When you struggle to finish an exercise such as jumping lunges, rather than thinking about how much longer before the timer will go off, try to focus on the next 2 jumps. Sal is famous for talking to himself that way. Just get the next 2 jumps, take a quick break, then focus on the next 2 jumps, and continue until the bell rings.
Don’t compare yourself with others: you fight your own battles. Your goal is to achieve your own personal record, NOT theirs. Focus on improving your own game instead of comparing your numbers with others’.
4. Making some noise, talking to yourself, swearing, etc. all have been scientifically proven to help reduce that uncomfortable burning feeling in your lungs [1]. That’s why I keep telling you silly jokes, reciting adolescent phrases, counting the reps, and asking you to translate “where do you come from?” in different languages. It’s all about managing your “hot emotion” – that desire to quit – and delaying it for about 10 minutes, or however long it takes to finish the session.
5. Give yourself a break. Whether you just barely missed your personal record (PR) or had a horrible boxing practice one day, don’t go crazy over it. Save the energy for the next workout. Use the missed opportunity as motivation for your next training session.
Never attempt to lift the weight unless you are 100% sure you can make it. If you’re getting hit by the same punch repeatedly, stop, take a break and think about defending that punch before going back into the ring. Don’t just keep on trying to muscle your way through it. You don’t get paid to train, so there is no point in risking injuries during sparring.
Remember: Durability is more important than ability! You accomplish nothing if you are on the injured reserved or unable-to-perform list.
6. Practice these simple techniques so they become part of your behavior. If you keep up the good behavior long enough, eventually they will become great habits.
Here at EP-fit, our goal is to turn your training into mindless habits. So when you make it, congratulation! You won’t need us anymore. When you graduate from our program, working out will be like brushing your teeth or taking a showers: you just do it; actually, you’d feel weird if you didn’t do it.
How cool is that?!
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Now onto something called Delayed Gratification (or Deferred Gratification) [2] Most of the quotes, data and results in this essay are derived from Jonah Lehrer’s article called “Don’t,” published in the New Yorker in 2009. Please keep in mind that I’m not singling anyone out in this blog. I’m just stating what has been proven in cognitive psychology and why we do things a certain way in EP-fit. The New Yorker article is free (see Reference #4), and I highly recommend that you read it (except you Prakash, you can stop reading now, wink).
The Marshmallow Experiment [3][4][5][6]
In 1972, psychologist Walter Mischel conducted a classic experiment. He left a group of 4-year-olds in a room with a bell and a marshmallow. If they rang the bell, he would come back and they could eat the marshmallow. If, however, they didn’t ring the bell and waited for him to come back on his own, they could then have two marshmallows.
Here is a video of the same type of experiment. [5] Watching the kids waiting for the adult to return can be uncomfortable, but at the same time so adorable.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rMkn4J_l9uU&feature=player_embedded
In the original experiment, the kids struggle to delay gratification for just a little bit longer –desperately trying to exercise self-control so they can wait and get two marshmallows. Some cover their eyes with their hands or turn around so that they can’t see the tray. Some lick or smell it but never take a bite. Some sing to it or turn the marshmallow into a toy. Others start kicking the desk, or tug on their pigtails, or stroke the marshmallow as if it were a tiny stuffed animal. One child, a boy with neatly parted hair, looks carefully around the room to make sure that nobody can see him. Then he picks up an Oreo, delicately twists it apart, and licks off the white cream filling before returning the cookie to the tray, a satisfied look on his face. Their scores varied widely. Some broke down and rang the bell within 30 seconds. Others lasted almost 15 minutes.
The children who waited longer went on to get higher SAT scores. They got into better colleges and had, on average, better adult outcomes. The children who rang the bell quickest were more likely to become bullies. They received worse teacher and parental evaluations 10 years later and were more likely to have drug problems at age 32.
For decades (even now) scientists and psychologist argued about which variable (nature or nurture) is the most reliable predictor in future success. Mischel argues that high level success is largely based on self-control: even the smartest kids still need to do their homework, or the most gifted basketball player, like Michael Jordan, still needs to practice.
“What we’re really measuring with the marshmallows isn’t will power or self-control,” Mischel says. “It’s much more important than that. This task forces kids to find a way to make the situation work for them. They want the second marshmallow, but how can they get it? We can’t control the world, but we can control how we think about it.”
Which bring us to this cliché: how bad do you want it?
Now that is something you hear all the time in the locker room. For the longest time, psychologists assumed that children’s ability to wait depended on how badly they wanted the second marshmallow. But it became clear very quickly that all kids wanted that extra marshmallow. Then what enables one kid to exert more will power than another?
Mischel’s conclusion, based on hundreds of hours of observation, identified that the crucial skill was metacognition, [7] or its childhood version, “strategic allocation of attention.” Instead of getting obsessed with the marshmallow—the “hot stimulus”—the patient children distracted themselves by covering their eyes, pretending to play hide-and-seek underneath the desk, or singing songs from “Sesame Street.” Their desire wasn’t defeated—it was merely ignored. “If you’re thinking about the marshmallow and how delicious it is, then you’re going to eat it,” Mischel says. “The key is to avoid thinking about it in the first place.”
Metacognition [6] or Strategic Allocation of Attention (SAA) is the thinking that actively controls other thinking; it’s what allows high-level performers to outsmart their shortcomings.
What’s astounding is that top performers as young as 4 years old started to figure out rules of thinking. According to Mischel, “The kids who couldn’t delay would often have the rules backward. They would think that the best way to resist the marshmallow is to stare right at it, to keep a close eye on the goal. But that’s a terrible idea. If you do that, you’re going to ring the bell before I leave the room.”
His conclusion on metacognition or SAA also helps explain why the marshmallow task is such a powerful predictive test. “If you can deal with hot emotions, then you can study for the S.A.T. instead of watching television,” Mischel says. “And you can save more money for retirement. It’s not just about marshmallows.” People who can delay gratification can sit through boring classes to get a degree. They make it to the gym on a regular basis. They can avoid certain temptations. For people without self-control skills, however, turning good behaviors into habits is a series of failed ordeals. No wonder they drop out. Life is a parade of less than ideal decisions: alcohol abuse, gambling, difficulty in maintaining relationships, financial issues, etc.
Here is the good news: deferred-gratification is a skill that can be learned.
When Mischel gave delayed gratification tasks to children from low-income families in the Bronx, he noticed that their ability to delay gratification was below average, at least compared with that of kids in Palo Alto. “When you grow up poor, you might not practice delay as much,” he says. “And if you don’t practice then you’ll never figure out how to distract yourself. You won’t develop the best delay strategies, and those strategies won’t become second nature.” In other words, people learn how to use their mind just as they learn how to use an iphone: through trial and error.
Mischel has found a shortcut. When he and his colleagues taught children a simple set of mental tricks—such as pretending that the candy is only a picture, surrounded by an imaginary frame—he dramatically improved their self-control. The kids who hadn’t been able to wait sixty seconds could now wait fifteen minutes. “All I’ve done is given them some tips from their mental user manual,” Mischel says. “Once you realize that will power is just a matter of learning how to control your attention and thoughts, you can really begin to increase it.”
Here is the caveat: It’s not enough to learn the mental tricks – the real challenge is turning the behavior into a habit – and that requires diligent practice (and awesome instructors).
This is where your environment is so important. We work very hard to create a place that focuses on turning your new found skills into mindless habits. It’s definitely no picnic. According to Mischel, in order for those learned behaviors to be drilled into your head, we (the coaches) need to established rituals that force you to practice the “delay” on a daily basis. Even the most mundane routines —such as warming up before exercising, or not snacking before dinner, or put money into your 401k, or those damn squat stretches — are really exercises in cognitive training: we’re teaching ourselves how to think so that we can outsmart our immediate desires.
Every coach models deferred gratification differently; I like to tell silly jokes or ask you dumb question like “where do you come from?”… Now you know why we do things the way we do.
At the end of the day, you still need to practice what you learn here, and you need to make EP-Fit a high priority in your routine. After all: you are what you practice, right?
See you at the gym =)
Reference
1. Why the #$%! Do We Swear? For Pain Relief:
http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=why-do-we-swear
2. Deferred Gratification:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Deferred_gratification
3. The Marshmallow Experiment:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stanford_marshmallow_experiment
4. Don’t:
http://www.newyorker.com/reporting/2009/05/18/090518fa_fact_lehrer
5. The video of the Marshmallow Experiment:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/09/18/marshmallow-test-video-a_n_291086.html
6. Metacognition:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Metacognition Continue reading ‘Score More Marshmallows’

